No2abuse was set up as a campaign by author Teresa Cooper in 2006
The say no2abuse campaign wanted to send out a strong message that abuse will not be tolerated in any shape or form but sadly a recent spat of Twitter users have seen fit to not only hijack our sites name as a hashtag #no2abuse but to mislead Twitter users and misuse it in a war waged against survivors of abuse who campaign online.
Yesterday evening saw an attack started by a user over a song choice tweet that saw survivor of abuse Teresa Cooper set upon also by the followers of that scrupulous user.
For those not familiar with Twitter, it’s a positive platform that allows many good uses to advertise, promote, support and/or allow users to tweet on a personal level. Whilst most users of twitter promote good and fair use, there are those few who misuse the social network site as a stepping stone to hunt down survivors with a view to attack and discredit them. It could be other survivors who have turned into abusers or it could be abusers who merely wish to sabotage any efforts to tackle the abuse of children in the UK.
Please remain vigilant on twitter and do not trust people just because they say they are campaigners or care leavers and if you see the #no2abuse hashtag be vigilant because there are abusive users misusing the #no2abuse name to further their personal and abusive agenda. They have/are misleading people into thinking they are in some way the original founders and campaigners of no2abuse and they are not and they are misleading people into assuming they are in some way connected to no2abuse when they are not. It is alarming that attacks against survivors of child abuse are increasing on the internet by those wishing to attempt to discredit genuine survivors to suit their own agenda be it self glory and a need to claim some sort of stakes in being “the ones heading the campaign against abuse” or hunt/stalk in order discredit a genuine survivor of abuse when they should spend more time fighting real abusers and rights for children abused instead of making other survivors their target practice. Those sort of people will attack anyone who gets in their way and achieve nothing other than chaos and mistrust among genuine survivors and they hide behind the guise of being there to support survivors and fight for children: when they seem to spend the majority of their time fighting survivors and attacking them. It also distracts people from the real problems and often survivors are stuck in the middle unsure of who can be trusted. Survivors of abuse should not be compromised by anyone nor put in the middle of heated debates where they have to choose between one or the other. This is counter productive and does more harm than good. The distress it causes survivors of abuse seems to go unnoticed by those non survivors and survivors who are engaging in such activity leaving the most vulnerable survivors silenced for fear of being caught up in the fights or fear of being attacked or accused of being an abuser or support abusers which is often not the case. There are instances that have seen survivors turn into abusers and/or have direct links to abusers which is a whole new ball game. Abusers have no right to protection and should be exposed in the right way.
One of the first lines of underhanded tactics used to attack a survivor of abuse is the regular misuse of “your an abuser” or “he/shes a paedophile” or “he/she supports abusers” which seems to the main tactic used to force a survivor to back down and silence them. They do this whilst dragging other people into the fight/abuse where a group of people are then seen attacking one person and attempting to discredit them for the wrong reasons. This in itself is abuse and unacceptable. The misuse of blogs is also another poor method to discredit and divide survivors when we read a regular blogs attacking each survivor by name if they do not comply to their whim on twitter. You will witness name calling and regular attacks on individual survivors via blogs which is unprofessional and distasteful not to mention harmful. What is wrong with this situation is the fact they not only seem to totally distract survivors from the real problem which is the serious abuse of children and the injustices against survivors of children’s homes and institutional abuse, but they then claim they campaign for children and survivors with the odd blog/reference to a public case whilst clearly seen to take an unprofessional approach of attack in the same blogs against other survivors. Counter productive and serves no purpose nor does it help anyone. Its also unhelpful to attack survivors by wrongly taking a tweet totally out of context to abuse a survivor with and set up hate campaigns against a survivor of abuse.
There are more and more attacks also over music or who we vote for and if you dare as to mention a song my M Jackson or Brown your then subjected to unwarranted attacks and mislabeled as an abuser or abuse supporter. The ones doing it show absolutely no care what so ever about the child abuse you have already suffered which brings about a very serious concern. If that person has no respect at all for the abuse you have already suffered and they feel they can in some way attempt to justify abusing you/another survivor over a song choice then they need to seek help and support. That is not justified behavior nor does it warrant any attack or to attempt to discredit a survivor and abuse the #no2abuse hashtag with no respect at all and it does make that person almost as bad as the ones they say are abusers ie artist of a song for example. If you dont like a persons song choice you dont have to listen to it. That does not give you the right to abuse a survivor or attempt to label them an abuser supporter over a song choice.
Being realistic, every day every person has encountered a product that has in some way been tainted with abuse and that includes the meat many eat or clothes they wear yet they feel they are so angelic when attempting to discredit a survivor over song choice. Every one is entitled to their own choices and opinions and no one has the right to discredit, attack or abuse another person for not doing it their way. There is no need to misuse such situations to create drama and attack. It is distasteful to even attempt to misuse such a thing to make untrue accusations against a survivor of abuse because they are not doing it “your way” if your the person doing the attack and discredit stance. If you do it to a survivor of abuse and you show no care at all for the abuse they have already suffered then questions need to be asked about the bully attempting such underhanded tactics regardless.
If we were to remove every thing that’s related to abuse from daily life there would be no music, no TV, no media and there would be no food to eat or clothes to wear and everyone would be a vegetarian. Why? because each daily item we all take for granted has in some way been tainted by abuse in some way shape or form be it animals skinned alive and countries that actively continue to abuse innocent animals for the clothes chains and even the clothes we wear which has seen hundreds die in poverty or collapsed building in order for us all to wear cheap clothes.
Do not attempt to pick fights with survivors then try and justify such behavior. There is no excuse at all.
The moral of this story is… If your a campaigner and you don’t see eye to eye with another campaigner, simply part ways and leave it at that. Do not sit there obsessing and targeting them in order to gain credibility on the assumption that who ever gets the most support is the winner because there is no winner. All it does it upset not only yourselves but those who get pulled in with it. Do not breach confidential emails or DMs EVER. Anyone seen to do such a thing should automatically be seen for what they are, untrustworthy. Survivors of abuse rely on trust and no one has a right to misuse that trust especially not over a disagreement that should be kept private between those involved.
No2abuse was originally founded by author Teresa Cooper and continues to be the name and foundation of her long standing campaign to fight the abuse of children in care.
No2abuse thanks everyone for their continued support
]]>The say no2abuse campaign wanted to send out a strong message that abuse will not be tolerated in any shape or form but sadly a recent spat of Twitter users have seen fit to not only hijack our sites name as a hashtag #no2abuse but to mislead Twitter users and misuse it in a war waged against survivors of abuse who campaign online.
This evening saw an attack started by a user over a song choice tweet that saw survivor of abuse Teresa Cooper set upon also by the followers of that scrupulous user.
For those not familiar with Twitter, it’s a positive platform that allows many good uses to advertise, promote, support and/or allow users to tweet on a personal level. Whilst most users of twitter promote good and fair use, there are those few who misuse the social network site as a stepping stone to hunt down survivors with a view to attack and discredit them. It could be other survivors who have turned into abusers or it could be abusers who merely wish to sabotage any efforts to tackle the abuse of children in the UK.
Please remain vigilant on twitter and do not trust people just because they say they are campaigners or care leavers and if you see the #no2abuse hashtag be vigilant because there are abusive users misusing the #no2abuse name to further their personal and abusive agenda and have/are misleading people into thinking they are in some way the original founders and campaigners of no2abuse and they are not and they are misleading people into assuming they are in some way connected to no2abuse when they are not.
No2abuse was originally founded by author Teresa Cooper and continues to be the name and foundation of her long standing campaign to fight the abuse of children in care.
No2abuse thanks everyone for their continued support
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“Please, sir, I want some more.” Illustration by George Cruikshank- Oliver Twist
They all have something in common, the cover ups and ignorance by local authorities, staff, police, ministers, the insurance companies that represent the local authorities and various others who fail to understand the victims or survivors needs above their own agenda. This is a very painful experience for the victims as the pain is prolonged in the lengthy fight for justice and answers.
Throughout the 1900’s looked after children placed in local authority care and Church run homes across the UK Ireland and Jersey including the horrific abuse at Kendall House where societies most vulnerable children suffered the most horrendous abuses after being taken into care then re-abused by the system that was meant to protect them. The children’s vulnerability in these homes and institutions attracted the seediest of characters and paedophiles. It was and still is very much a problem today with more stories entering the main stream media almost daily including the abuse of children by Jimmy Savile well known for his charity work and leading role as presenter on Top of the Pops.
Kendall House a Gravesend children’s home that illegally turned itself into a secure unit by Home Office Psychotherapist Dr Perinpanayagam isn’t any different in it’s cover ups and it wasn’t any different to the abuse suffered in other homes, secure institutions or old industrial schools, nor was it different because they drugged children in the chemical cosh but what did make it an unusual case is the severe level of mass overdosing of several dangerous psychiatric/psychotropic drugs.The level of drugging was so high the children born years later to the Kendall House girls were born with birth defects and the ex residents became ill with autoimmune illness that left some of them very ill.
The drugging of children in care was not unusual as it was a widespread problem for looked after children as untrained staff and psychiatrists took to drugging children in order to make life easier for the staff but it also saw an opportunity for it to be misused for financial gain. There is a huge wheel turning that allows these children to become an investment for those running the show because for each child diagnosed with a mental illness they don’t have will see institutions and those working with them make a lot of money per child with figures as high as £250,000 per child and that doesn’t include the amount of money made by the psychiatric industry who are paid for reports and evaluations. A misdiagnosed child who is drugged will bring about side effects that mimic behavior problems that is then used to justify the drugging and keeping a child in their care. This is very clear cut in the Kendall House abuse scandal that today is still ignored by the system with author Teresa Cooper unable to get any support from her local Ongar and Brentwood MP Eric Pickles. The Secretary of State for Communities and Local Government has over a period of 16 years refused to see or talk to Miss Cooper about Kendall House. He even went so far as informing the local newspaper and quote
“Mr Pickles said his staff had repeatedly asked Miss Cooper to send him full details of her allegations.
“I basically want the allegations in writing because I can’t abuse parliamentary privilege on something that I’m uncertain about,” he said.
“I’m very willing to help her if she would be kind enough to put down in writing what her story is.
“We have consistently answered every call and we have done our best to get information.”
Mr Eric Pickles had in fact already received a number of emails which comes under generic mail and is by law and parliamentary regulations seen as a legitimate means of contact. On equal footing as a hand written letter. He received full information on Kendall House over a long period consisting of years of which he ignored his constituents plea for help in what was and still remains a very serious and horrific abuse of young girls in care which were publicly exposed under the then Thatcherite era that ignored what was happening under their own Government power in 1979 onwards. Another detailed email sent to MP Eric Pickles
“gaymerl@parliament.uk”
Sent: Wednesday, 12 October 2011, 15:02
Subject: Re: Case Reference 2011/0054589
note. gaymerl is Pickles secretary email address of which was given to Miss Cooper specifically to address the Kendall House problem which again not only fell upon deaf ears but Pickles then informed the local newspaper it was in some way Miss Coopers fault he had ignored it over a period of 16 years and continues to ignore it.
One quote in the very detailed and lengthy email that not only gives a very clear synopsis of the abuse and questions regarding Kendall House but also states
Dear Eric, I would also like my adjourned case in parliament from 1994 re opened and continued as it was adjourned not finished. Id appreciate all the support with all the questions I have and to provide support in addressing the very serious situation regarding Kendall House
This was responded to during late 2012 when his secretary called Miss Cooper and informed her Kendall House had been brought up in Parliament by a Kent MP and she must “drop it” as it was the end of the road in her campaign for justice. Of course a Kent MP did not bring anything up in parliament and was yet another attempt at silencing Teresa Cooper. It did not silence Ms Cooper and Mr Eric Pickles has deliberately ensured Miss Cooper and the Kendall House abuse scandal is not dealt with and he himself as a senior figure has not been honest publicly or to the local newspaper where he gave the quote and the local newspaper didn’t inform Miss Cooper prior to print thus misleading it’s readers and the public of the full scale of this senior cabinet members serious failures and refusal to support, help or even remotely attempt to do anything at all which could be seen as a cover up? that goes all the way to the top in one of the most shocking abuses in UK history where severe child abuse in corporate care later directly and physically affected the future children born to the Kendall House girls.
Cover up? Corruption? When senior cabinet members such as Pickles behave in this manner can we honestly trust this Government to protect any children?
How can survivors of abuse move forward in life and seek justice when the very system are the main problem that sees justice is not only ignored or covered up but also ensures justice serves little or no purpose because the police have been known to fail many victims and survivors as seen in recent exposures of kendall House and also Savile and Elm House, guest house
Failures to protect children and forced drugging
Children were left seriously damaged in homes and institutions after being dragged to the floor by several members of staff for minor things. They were held down, sat on, restrained in methods that led to restrictions in breathing, injuries and sometimes the death of the child. No one listened to the children’s complaints because it became widely acceptable to drug and restrain them leaving children and parents complaints ignored by those caring for the looked after child with no one to turn too and very little rights if any at all.
Throughout the 1970’s and 1980’s looked after children became zombies because many homes and institutions were using drugs such as valium and Largactyl to quieten them (drug them up and shut them up) and also the inhumane misuse of dangerous psychotropic drugs used and abused in experiments as seen in Kendall House by an abusive psychiatrist/psychotherpist. Girls were seen shuffling around as they walked with their heads hung low in a trance induced state by the drugs administered to the child. Widely known as the chemical cosh children found themselves with no say on the barbaric drug regimes forced on them against their will and for no apparent reason other than to make life easier for the untrained staff. Consent was not given by the looked after child or their parents as it was ultimately the social workers who signed medical consent forms after conveniently placing the child under a full care order with the assistance of family courts just before drugging commences which still continues today in 2013. This gives rise to many questions on the legality of the drugs used on children who mostly didn’t have mental health problems. In most cases no proper diagnoses had been made and psychiatrists would take it on 3rd party hear say from carers and social workers or with one hour of meeting a child and making a firm diagnoses with little or no experience of the child’s behavior first hand. We would see terms written in files like “they might be developing an illness, they may potentially develop a mental illness, they have the potential to develop a personality disorder” and it was always maybe, might have, could have or possibly but very few had a diagnosed mental illness. Those who didn’t have one prior to be being drugged inevitably left care with a mental health issue because the drugs and combined aggressive regimes used on children in care which altered their behavior in a very negative way. Many looked after children also left care as addicts to those drugs. The abuse and misuse of drugs continues to this day in UK institutions both private and local authority run. The negative conditioning of these vulnerable children goes on behind closed doors and is now more of a closely guarded secret than ever before.
No2abuse has documented evidence of 2 units currently drugging the children in their care with adult drugs used for adult schizophrenia patients with some children as young as 12 years old being drugged and receiving negative conditioning.
Kendall House’s drug regime was very different to the chemical cosh and what happened behind those closed doors is still to come out in full but that doesn’t mean that drugs used on children in care throughout the last 3 decades wasn’t wrong because it was and still is. Many survivors have reported being used in vaccine drug trials too. This practice was happening all over the world and several countries have now been exposed for drug research on looked after children.
When children leave the care system the damage is done and they are thrown into the big wide world and messed up from their negative experiences. Basic skills are taken away from them and many are left with the trauma caused by the abuse.
Today resources such as therapy are now so underfunded by government cut backs and long waiting lists that mean many victims and survivors can’t get help and the support they need. The government has an obligation to provide these services but doesn’t. Many children are put into mental hospitals and lost in the system because the system has failed them, avoids dealing with the problems and refuses to deal with the abuse to looked after children and survivors who’s lives have been damaged by the very system that’s meant to care for them.
More problems have been created by the care system and those damaged by the failing system then leave care only to find that when they have children they then end up having to fight to prevent their children being taken away and their experience in care used against them by social services in the family courts.
Changes need to be made for all survivors of abuse and today’s looked after children, and the governments need to address the care system being comparable to an organised abuse ring for the purpose of abusing children under the guise of being “looked after” or “cared” for.
Industrial schools and looked after children are part of history and have been mentioned by many famous and historic authors such as Dickens. Children in care form a very important part of history as do the buildings but sadly the uncaring care system has not changed with time and is still very much in the dark ages.
The Government systematically fail children in and out of care and with very little learned we will not see a lot changing any time in the near future until the voice of children and survivors are heard
Give children a voice and say No2abuse
#Kendallhouse #Savile #JimmySavile #Elmhouse #Fernbridge #wales #jersey #ireland #scotland #forceddrugging #childabuse #institutionabuse #psychiatricabuse #ericpickles #government #lookedafterchildren #childrenincare #ore #paedophile
]]>There is no such a thing as the “perfect” relationship but there are some relationships you will never be able to work out until the damage is done.
A relationship with a sociopath love rat is a roller coaster ride that drags each victim through the depths of despair until they are broken.
Sociopaths are a threat to your emotions, your mental health, your finances and even your life and he does not and will not care about you. Nothing you do can cure him of his mental illness and ways. You cannot change yourself because it won’t make any difference either. You cannot make him understand how you feel and how much he hurts you because he really doesn’t care. He is totally detached from normal human emotions. This applies to female sociopaths too. He has no feelings for you at all. You are just a means to an end and he will do anything to get it.
Forensic psychologists are still researching the phenomenon and dynamics of the love rat relationships that see victims suffer immensely.
Oh how I tried. Oh how I cried, until the day he broke me. Living with a sociopathic narcissistic personality
Life is full of challenges as relationships come and go. Some stay the same, some are ideal and some relationships get plain ugly. It is hard when a relationship breaks down but what happens when the relationship turns out to be anything but what you thought it was?
There is no such a thing as the “perfect” relationship and with all the best will in the world there are some relationships you will never be able to work out and the damage is irreparable. Some of us trust and some don’t but one thing we all have in common is… you do not know and can’t know the person you have met or fallen in love with until you have spent time with them and that includes those you already know socially. It’s only when you have spent personal time with a sociopath that you can truly understand the full impact such a man will have on your life. Those around you will be blinded by his ability to mislead them into the same falsehood he led you into.
So, Mr. Sociopath has entered your life and you may have met him at work, via friends, out and about or even on holiday. Everyone adores him and he strikes others as the perfect gentleman. “The good catch” soon turns out to be anything but a good catch as you writhe in the pain of his cold emotionless sword that will strike you with precision, time and time again.
There are different sides to sociopaths in how they initially come across to those around them and how they reel you in but what they all have in common is they are the ultimate masters of manipulation and deception. They can and will lull even the most powerful women into a false sense of security. This man knows what he is doing and he will leave you exhausted mentally and emotionally until even the strongest of women become trapped in a web of deception and lies.
Initially you won’t suspect anything until the game begins by which time he has already decided you are the one. You have succumb to his charms or pity card and the slow release manipulation begins. It’s so subtle it goes undetected for some time even months. Remember this man is patient and the stronger you are and harder to break the longer it will take him to bring you down into the dark place he will take you. He might work at a faster pace which depends on how easy he finds it to weave you in and when you first notice the little telltale signs you will question yourself. If you challenge him he will deny everything and lead you to believe you’re over reacting. He can get stroppy or totally ignore you as a means to punish you for even thinking that way.
Imagine a praying mantis. These creatures are the masters of deception. They mimic their surroundings and camouflage themselves so they blend in to their surroundings. They are patient, they wait, and they measure up their target and once caught there is little or no escape once in their clutches. It takes a lot to break free and it normally results in the loss of a limb.
There is nearly always a loss involved in being Mr. Sociopath narcissist the love rat who will drain you out of house and home or leave you penniless or worst still, both. The day you stop serving a purpose is the day he will casually walk away as if you never existed. He has probably already found his next victim or is on the lookout for a new one so do not expect anything from this cold heart because he is getting on with his life and is not thinking about you. He thinks only for himself and who the next target will be. He will occupy his mind with grand visions for his future often involving someone else’s money. He will cut you off with no contact and leave you feeling total despair and this is a very painful transition for any one on the receiving end of such a cold mind. You will question yourself over and over again or text him frantically in a vain bid to grab his attention but it seldom works nor does it relieve you of your anger and pain. His silence continues because you have served your purpose and whilst he doesn’t want to be exposed he rarely cares what the consequences are if any.
A large proportion of sociopath’s narcissists are charming but not all of them and it depends on your circumstances because he can and will adapt to the best method to lure you in. In most circumstances this will be to charm the socks off you but he is also likely to use the “pity” or “sympathy” card. The sympathy card is a good tool for him especially if you’re of a personality that cares for others suffering or you yourself have suffered. He may feed you his intense stories of deep depression and poverty or how hard life has treated him. He will put his friends and family down to you whilst portraying you as the beast to them whenever your back is turned. If he has to put on an act to lure others into believing he’s the perfect gentleman then naturally he will portray himself as the man of dreams come true. The perfect partner. He will make you believe you’re the only person in the world that he needs and you are likely to hear the words “trust me” as regular as he brings the topic of money up which is regular albeit at times more subtle than others. Not only will he bring the money matter up in conversation but he will then twist it and inform you that you brought it up first and how obsessed you are with money as soon as you question him or his motives. Lies and manipulation come into force and he will convince you you’re the problem and not him.
The trust of the innocent is the liar’s most useful tool.
These men are mainly opportunists and they have the ability to find out your strengths, weaknesses and use them to gain control or against you at any time. Whilst you’re still getting to know him he has already evaluated you and sized you up. He knows what he wants and he will do anything to get it even have sex with you. Sex for him is not an act of love or emotions, it’s merely a physical event.
He has no mercy for the bereaved, vulnerable, disabled, abuse victims, lonely or depressed and he certainly won’t have any sympathy for you either. You to him are prey. You serve a means to his ends and that’s all. Your weakness is his power. You are part of the game and that’s all he sees you as. He doesn’t care what you look like or how old you are as long as you have what he wants. It’s all he cares about. There is no in between with this cunning predator. The more he sees your insecurities, lack of confidence in self appearance or vulnerabilities all the better for him. If you’re a strong woman he will wear you down slowly but surely until you give in to his every whim if only for the peace.
This is no ordinary man. He has no emotions and he has no emotional attachments to you or those around him. He is incapable of love and devotion because he doesn’t think the same as most rational human beings and the only thing he cares about is himself and winning the game. They do not feel the same emotional sensation you and I feel and you only serve to cause yourself more mental exhaustion if you think you can change him. He won’t change and it doesn’t matter how much you keep giving, he still won’t change. You may find it hard to believe that such men exist but they do. This man feels he has a right to what isn’t his and he does not care if he leaves you penniless, suicidal or in a serious predicament. He will brush it off as not being his problem and continue as if he has done nothing wrong.
He believes he is the center of the universe. The love rat sociopath narcissist will see something he wants in you. Money and a lifestyle are the usual wants that he cannot achieve by himself. Mr. Sociopath will have a history of thinking big but never actually achieving anything. He will have an excuse for his lack of financial security and lack of having anything material other than what he has taken from others.
One thing you will find with Mr. Sociopath is his constant ability to blame everyone else for his problems. His problems nearly always involve financial problems and his credit will be bad with banks, debt collectors and general bills remain unpaid. He will blame his family for his problems and his friends for not supporting him. He will blame his ex-girlfriend and even go so far as telling any woman he meets that his ex-girlfriend took all his money and left him in debt when in fact she ended up with no money because he dwindled it away, manipulated with lies, stole it or forced it out of her. One thing you will soon come to learn is that “nothing is ever his fault”. If he comes on to other women, it’s not his fault, if he has an argument with anyone, it’s not his fault, if he has no money it’s not his fault, it’s always someone else’s fault and he is the victim. This man rarely contributes to life and lives off other people.
Their family tire of Mr. Sociopath because he never takes responsibility for his actions. They get fed up because he doesn’t settle down and they have often suffered at his hands which he will convince you is not his fault. He may well tell you he was abused as a child and whether he was or not is no excuse for his behavior. He will use anything and everything to turn everything around on you or someone else but never himself.
He will be happy to spend your money at every given opportunity and he rarely contributes to anything because he doesn’t think beyond his own needs.
The cold hearted manipulator will weave his web of deception and lies and you will find with each day you will face some sort of dilemma be it emotional, financial or other. Mr. Sociopath will lead you to believe the problem is you, always you and he is merely an innocent bystander, the victim. He will drive you to the point you feel you have gone completely insane as you question his relentless onslaught of lies that are believable. When he doesn’t convince himself his lies are the truth and how you’re the big bad wolf for daring to address the topic, he will, drive you to distraction as you search for answers in your own mind. By that stage of the relationship you won’t know what to believe anymore and you just give in for the sake of a peaceful life. You often find yourself continuously worn down like a slowly decaying stone each time you search for the answers. He has an answer for everything with story upon story told as if he’s reading it from a well-rehearsed play.
Mr. Sociopath narcissists have a negative attitude to almost everything. They find negativity in everything they or you do. They are self destructive and feel underachieving. they complain and whine about life’s problems but do little to resolve it. They sulk and often give you the silent treatment to almost any situation they see fit.
Mr. Sociopath is secretive and will hold back on many things that most genuine men won’t hold back
“Hun, why are you keeping your Facebook secret from me?” you ask him not once but several times which is greeted with silence.
He replies after being pushed for a response “I do not have to share everything with you so what’s the problem and why are you spying on me?” He gets paranoid.
You then discover he has not one, not even two but three, four or even five other Facebook accounts.
Do you ever feel alone whilst you’re sat there with him? Do you ever feel that no matter what happens in your life be it good or bad, he has little interest in anything you achieve?
Have you ever returned home with great news and he walks off and you may as well speak to the brick wall because he isn’t listening. Your excitement fast turns into a low feeling of worthlessness.
An abuser who uses gaslighting techniques on his victims is dangerous and not something any partner should ignore.
Does he ever ignore you and give the silent treatment on a regular basis?
He does this because he doesn’t want you to achieve because he needs to feel superior and he doesn’t want to lose that control. You do not matter, not to him. You will question yourself and he will portray you as the lunatic to those around him and you. His art of manipulation is believed by all those around him. He is seen as the victim and you are the crazy fool who won’t let go.
Mr. Sociopath will expect you to praise, love, give, give some more whilst he slowly drains the life out of your world. You end up exhausted mentally from the continuous onslaught of his behavior.
Do not underestimate the dangers involved or the impact it’s going to have on your life.
There are some things in life you can’t change and for your own sanity and wellbeing you need to walk away. You are worth more and there is a lot more to life than suffering what you shouldn’t have to suffer.
These men have used violence and if you’re in a violent relationship you need to seek help as soon as possible. Do not suffer in silence.
Part 2 – How to survive and move on with your life – There is life after being with a sociopath narcissist
Author Teresa Cooper - New book coming soon
Video’s for those in relationships with a sociopath narcissist
Silent abuse
Narcissist. Is he or isn’t he?
Gaslighting - abuse
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In a day and age where mothers, fathers and family members who in many circumstances are wrongfully accused of child abuse we see many failures that are not rectified by either the failing Family Courts or failing Social Services system. A system where complaints are mishandled by the same departments being complained about yet with no stable and independent method of which to complain about those involved many complaints go unheard or ignored. Families going through such emotional abuse by the social services social workers and appointed psychiatrists do not want to acknowledge that what they do to people does emotionally abuse families at a time they should be recieving support.
Discrimation against those with mental health disabilities including disorders are covered by the law except when the discrimination taking place is by social workers who use a mental health condition as a reason to forcebly remove a child that is not at risk from their mother. It is often extreme cases of mental health illnesses such as scitzophrenia that have been associated to child murders but then children have been murdered by just as many who have never been diagnosed with a disorder and have been seen as a pillar of society. If child murders and serious damage done to a child is because of a disorder such as BPD then surely those mothers would account for many more murders than we have seen publicised of late and most of those come from a variety of circumstances.
The families who didn’t have any mental health problem have found themselves being labelled with a mental health disorder once social services have intruded on their lives and forced them into the mental health system which seems to be a secure method used to remove anyones child. It goes unquestioned because the families are not given the opportunity to prove they don’t have one. It is almost hard to believe that a mental health illness is diagnosed from a list of symptoms which covers just about every normal human emotion that ever existed and if you dare as to admit you’ve had problems sleeping a psychiatrist will turn that into a symptom of a manifesting illness.
Those from all walks of life have murdered children be it rich men as we saw in the case of Mark Latta, 39, a wealthy businessman. Baby Charlotte was not from a deprived background or “a poor family”,Latta had a new four-bedroom house with an Audi TT and a BMW parked in the driveway. The family also had a nanny
Then this case of millionaire Alberto Izaga
So is this to suggest that anyone is capable of murdering a child or putting them at risk? Professionals are not exempt from child murder as we have also seen police officers such as the Kent officer who murdered his two children and wife and various other cases and we also have women from varieties of backgrounds who have also murdered a child/ren so this problem is not unique to mothers who may or may not be from a disadvantaged background because it affects the rich, the poor, those with and those without mental health problems, men, women and various professions so should psychiatrists and social workers be misusing mental health disorders against families just to remove children that are not at risk of harm?
The social workers and paid for psychiatrists have everyone believing that anyone with a mental health disorder be it mild or other is a risk to their child yet stories in the public domain show that crimes to children are also commited just as often by those without a diagnosed mental health problem and if that is the case then perhaps social services should be removing children from every family that has a child just to be on the safe side although given child murders have also been commited by professionals who’s jobs are stressful would it be fair to assume that social workers also fit in that catagory because they are always complaining about the stress they are put under by the demands of the job so is their mental health impaired due to work pressures? Probably and when someones judgement is impaired by these pressures they will inevitably make mistakes.
How social workers write, document events or whats been said can by the law of averages never be accurate unless it is recorded and written down word for word and without recorded evidence to help them write accuratly the flaws will inevitably be there due to work pressures. When a social worker is under such immense pressure mistakes are made as we have seen and often a social worker will be called out of the office or distracted by a phone call right in the middle of writing in someones files at a crucial moment when what they write could mean the loss of a child to a family or the child staying at home; and that creates a mess because by the time they have finished with the distractions the information is not then written down in any satisfactory way often misleading others who read it.
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Most mothers and fathers I have spoken to did not have a diagnosed mental health problem until after social services invaded their lives and had them subjected to the mental health evaluations. These evaluations have seen couples who were once secure argue because one evaluation might deem one of them with a problem that causes an argument of blame and cause doubt between the couple. Most families ive been in contact with have been evaluated by mental health at a time AFTER the families have been subjected to the systems methods of emotional abuse and when your at the height of suffering from their emotional abuse, they then blame it on a personality disorder of some kind simply because you react and if you try not to react your then branded with another disorder that fits that description. So many mothers who didnt have a disorder prior to social services, court and psychiatric intervention find themselves branded with one nor could the mothers argue it because the system doesn’t cater for that. Once branded always a nurotic woman of sorts and that is hard to shift once a parent has been labelled.
When the families lose their child they are then driven to suicidal behaviour and do desperate things out of grief and desperation which if you look at what is percieved as an ordinary family they too will suffer a variety of unusual behaviour when they have lost someone close to them. They are considered to be grieving yet for social workers and psychiatrists they see that grieving process in mothers they are involved with as a mental disorder thats further used against them and you find the social workers saying “see I told you she is mad”.
This is something that has happened as far back as the historic ages of persecution which saw the bellittlement of women who were seen by men as unequal. There is a pattern that emergies against women, mothers, daughters, aunts and grandmothers which has over time seen them branded mentally ill if they spoke up about what they percieved as being a wrong doing or unfair.
In history men were always the dominant figures and the women had no say be it with their children, at home, in a place of work or in public. Women were not allowed to vote as men saw women as the lesser sex and that they should be there simply to serve them be it in the bedroom, domestically to clean up after them and breed heirs. That was the only purpose women served until the suffragettes movement fought to give women rights in the late 1800’s and it took women 70 years to fight for their rights which is still current today.
If a woman attempts to fight back the historic yet ever present pattern emergies every time and women are automatically seen as mentally impaired and suffregettes are a classic example that saw Psychiatrists sit down and discuss the women’s discontent and they came up with it being a nervous disposition which evolved with time and soon women who spoke up for themselves were not only deemed as suffering from almost every psychiatric disorder past, present and newly made up ones but they also found themselves the butt of jokes that labelled women mad, nurotic, psycho and the ever famous bunny boiler.
Psychiatrists ignored the surrounding factors that led the suffregettes to demand more rights and in an unequal way of life women were subjected to the most horrendous tactics which saw psychiatrists dismiss womens rights and label them psychiatrically ill.
“Suffregettes were force fed whilst strapped to chairs, rubber tubes were inserted through the mouth and occasionally through the nose and into the stomach, and food poured down; the suffragettes were held down by force while the instruments invaded their bodies by force, an experience of pain and distress to the sufraggette. Similarly suffragettes were referred to as hysterical and clinically insane by the psychiatric profession.
One psychiatrist involved in the case of one suffregette was alleged to have said
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Fathers are increasingly finding that they too are being subjected to this mental health branding in recent years although it would be interesting to see just how many fathers compared to mothers are forced into the mental health system by Social Services and their allies, Psychiatrists..
From 1981 to 1985, Dickens tried to alert the Parliament on a pedophile who was in the film distribution pédopornos. But these remarks had no echo at the time.
A week ago, we learned that a Conservative MP (d. 1995) Geoffrey Dickens warned the firm about Thatcher choking business pedophile. Which earned him direct threats and burglaries soon as he started talking about some people [1].
From 1981 to 1985, Dickens tried to alert the Parliament on a pedophile who was in the film distribution pédopornos. But these remarks had no echo at the time.
However, he cited a downright Peter Hayman, a diplomat and a member of MI6, as a pedophile who had escaped prosecution although he got caught with equipment pédoporno. In 1983, Dickens spoke of a pedophile network that involved personalities, “people in positions of power, influence and have responsibilities,” he threatened people swinging in Parliament.
In 1984, Dickens called the Paedophile Information Exchange ban (PIE), a platform through which the paedo is exchanged photos, videos and best addresses [2]. It is also suspected that the system used to order children. Dickens also mentioned the rape of children who were under the authority of local Leon Brittan.
Dickens denounced the existence of brothels children in Islington, a suburb of London (precisely where Tony Blair lived), and stated that forty children were victims. He gave everything to Scotland Yard, which has done nothing.
In 1984 the cops were vaguely being investigated on Elm Guest House, this chic inn in London, where children from orphanages neighbors were raped under the eye of cameras by MPs, judges and other pop stars . Among the visitors Elm Guest House was just Sir Peter Hayman.
Finally, the survey was cut short, as compared to 2003. Authorities and households have never found it useful to conduct an investigation even though they were alerted. Dickens also sent some of the documents related to this case the interviewer Andrea Davison [3]. But, the police seized in January 2010 by the cops Wales. Andrea Davison explained that at this time the cops were afraid that the pedophile VIP is exposed due to the antics of Savile.
She also explained that Dickens gave the same folder Leon Brittan, whose involvement was not established at the time, but actually part of guest visitors Elm House. Davison and Andrea Brittan had spoken with Dickens in the early 90s, and “Leon was summoned by a number of survivors. It was crucial for the pedophile to gain the sympathy of people in high positions. “
It is also proved that the record of 50 pages, hand delivered by Dickens in 1984, had disappeared from the office Brittan, Ministry of Home Affairs (home office).
As for the case of Dickens, it was destroyed by the family after his death because his wife believed that said file was too sensitive to keep the family home. But copies exist, is to know where they are.
In early February, John Stingemore, former leader of Grafton Close Home, an orphanage which had some of the children [4] exploited Elm Guest House (which has since closed), was arrested along with his father Tony McSweeney was apparently he used one of the guest house. In fact, some educators Grafton Close pedophiles were never worried. Among them, Neil Kier, who oversaw the home. Terry Earland, who ran for his services to children in Richmond County, where was the Grafton Close, had just arranged the coup that Kier is an educator who cares for children out of the Elm Guest House the day of the single raid in 1982.
Today, the same Earland, which is nevertheless prominently in the investigation file on Elm Guest House, said he had twice tried to warn his colleagues and the police about sexual abuse in orphanages, he was in charge ...
He also explained he had been warned in advance of the descent into the guest house by the police itself. Moreover, all the authorities were aware, which may explain that the place was almost empty [5] while the cops are waiting to fall on an orgy with thirty adults.
However, in the neighborhood everyone knew very well what was happening in the guest house. We talked about these members and artists who left the brothel at night, not fast. You could hear the celebrations taking place there, we saw the lights ... Besides, they have not failed to complain to their representatives at the time, but today these politicians seem to suffer from amnesia.
Today, the police are obliged to investigate, and in December 2012, a dozen victims - men have told police they were raped by men Guste Elm House.
Until recently we learned that Peter Hatton Bornshin, a victim who has been placed in Grafton Close Children’s home after the suicide of her mother, said she had been repeatedly raped while he was in this home. In 1994 at age 28, he committed suicide by taking an overdose of cocaine, too marked by the abuse he had suffered as a child. Yet he had been recognized as a victim and had touched a high compensation.
Another victim told cops that when placed close to Grafton in the 80s, it was prostitute in Elm Guest House (where sfilms were shot), but has also been sent to Amsterdam, Mecca paedocriminality at that time.
Elm Guest House and Dutch networks
It has been said that Elm Guest House was connected to the network Spartacus, who was advertising for sex in that it organized. Spartacus was a guide for pedophiles broadcast in 150 countries, who gave the best addresses and even coupons, which was managed by his father John Stamford. And for some reason, it still exists.
According to the investigation of a social worker who had met Carole Kasir, the owner of Elm Guest house at the time, Glencross also edited the newsletter group gay particonservateur [6], CGHE Newsletter (Conservative Gay Homosexual Equality), which contained ads for Elm Guest House.
According to the same survey, and after Operation Fairbanks conducted by the police, another visitor Elm Guest House was George Tremlett, former leader of the Greater London Council, former journalist and author, including a biography David Bowie. He often went there at the time the abuse took place.
Originally Elm Guest House guest house was normal. Then it became a meeting place for homosexuals at the instigation of several people, including John Rowe and mackerel pedophile Terry Dwyer. This would also be the ones who have introduced to Carole Kasir Peter Glencross, the priest who hosted Hubert Vedrine and was a friend of his father. According to the report, Glencross was the “business manager” Spartacus guide.
During a search of his rectory of St. Leger des Vignes - where he was hosted Védrine few years [7] earlier and where he lived with his five-adoptive son in the early 90s, was found a quantity of material pédoporno [8] and what to do photo shoots. It is a month after the raid another pedophile priest, “the pastor Doucé” Christ the Liberator, was murdered, most likely by the DGSE who came looking at him (note that Doucé was a former lover Philippe Carpentier, CRIESdont pillar was already discussed). Glencross was imprisoned and died shortly after its release in preventive heart attack. Apparently, it was Doucé who distributed the photos taken by Glencross in his studio.
John Rowe was a pedophile who organized trips to the Netherlands for members duMonday Club, a group of MPs on the right wing of the Conservative Party [9], and some of whom were on the list of visitors Elm Guest House. He said “MI5” in front of his name on the guest list Elm Guest House in connection with a Tricker Russell Howard, former English teacher convicted pedophile become a driver for a tour operator for pedophiles English for the Netherlands, where he took refuge after his conviction in England in the late 80s.
According to the survey of Marcel Vervloesem, the Belgian association Morkhoven [10] referred to the police, he was carrying children from England to the Netherlands with false passports probably obtained through contacts with the British Embassy in the Netherlands, to send them in brothels.
In 1995, it took 15 months in prison for trafficking in images pédopornos, and was sentenced to ten other people, then resumed its activities in finding apartments in Amsterdam for pedophiles spree. The band met children in Amsterdam and sailed for orgies filmed. We also note that John was fired Stamford Netherlands in 1988 to be sold pédopornos videos, and then fled to Germany where the laws are more lax in this area.
Stamford was also convicted in Belgium, where he had come to retire near Antwerp, after Germany has strengthened its laws on crimes against children. In a report English, undercover reporters who had been offered by two boys in Manila Stamford (called “the angel of the slums”) filmed the priest when he said “if you’re discreet, I guarantee that you will have as many boys as you want in the Philippines. ” In addition, four Swiss associations for the defense of children also continued in the late 90s.
Finally, Amsterdam Tricker was part of the English group who organized a pedophile with Warwick Spinks, unfortunately that does more. In this group (and also stopped in 1995), Derek Brown, who had spoken of a snuff movie was none other than dumeurtre Jason Swift in 1985, for which a marginal band was convicted. Brown was convicted in the Netherlands in 1989 to film production with paedo Dutch and Moroccan children, and was friends with Mark Enfield, who was an accomplice in the murder of Jason Swift, but has never been questioned. We’ll be back very soon on this case Jason Swift, which is far from clear.
As for Warwick Spinks, one can say that has traveled extensively until his arrest in 2012 to return to the Czech Republic, he is involved in the pédoporno including snuff movies, and he became very wealthy. In Amsterdam, he dragged in gay bars where they also provided children, and was in contact with a lot of pedophiles from Britain or even Austria, as a René Osterwalder, emigrated to Amsterdam Swiss doctor, who wanted to make Romanian children for slaughter in snuff movies [11]. He then mounted his own brothels where children were sold “behind the counter”. Spinks was the crossroads of several networks, including Zandvoort, through its contacts with Norbert de Rijke and Lothar Glandorf.
Then some Barry Dwyer and Haddon have transformed the guest house in brothel for pedophiles.
Meanwhile, we learn that Kasir Haroun, former husband of Carole Kasir and owner of the guest house, prepares to leave England to join his son in the United States.
We also learn that the board of Richmond chose to pay a settlement agreement with a victim who complained rather than risk a trial, and that with the taxpayers’ money. Apparently, other civil proceedings took place.
List
Visitor List of Elm Guest House made following interviews with Carole Kasir:
Stuart Bell, supplying boys knew Dwyer. Former MP, who died in October 2012. He began his political career in the early 80s. He was also spokesman for Northern Ireland from 1984 to 1987. In 2006, Bell became a knight of the Legion d’Honneur in France, Chirac [12]. In 2011, Bell took a stolen egg in the figure. He is the father of a boy who had violated unsuccessfully sought help at Bell sent the eggs. The father found his son unconscious, and a guy was convicted, but the father thought it was not good guilty.
Anthony Blunt, MI5 double agent and Soviet close to the royal family. When he was discovered, he swung fellow double agents so that its activities remain secret. But we can ask why MI5 recruited him in 1939 while Blunt sympathies for the communists were known [13]. Thatcher and the balance in full parliament in 1979? Blunt and loses his title of nobility! He died in 1983 at the time of the incident Elm Guest House. He was also a cousin of the mother of Queen Elizabeth II and her father worked for the British Embassy in Paris. Blunt has also dragged the side of Kincora Boys Home in Belfast, where the secret services operated a brothel for paedo to compromise various personalities. According to some, Blunt would have helped to stifle cases involving Jimmy Savile.
Sir Peter Bottomley. Conservative MP and member of the Monday Club. He served in the Thatcher administration for Transport and Employment, and in Northern Ireland. He was President of the Church of England’s Children’s Society and was a member of the Political Committee of One Parent Families, and was a member of the ecclesiastical commission. In 1984 he became a member of the Thatcher government, including Employment and roads and transportation, and in 1989 he arrived in Northern Ireland. His wife Virginia is one of the leaders of the London School of Economics, and in 1988 she entered the government as Deputy Secretary to the environment. She is also a member of the very Atlanticist Dichtley Foundation. Virginia’s cousin was ambassador to the United States
Ronald Brown, Labour MP died in 2002, visitor Elm Guest House and Fairbanks involved in the operation, on such a guest house.
Peter Brooke: Conservative MP, he served in the offices of Thatcher and John Major. He studied at Harvard in the USA and is the son of a secretary affairs. In 1987 he was Chairman of the Conservative Party and in 1989 he became Secretary of State for Northern Ireland (he stayed until 1992), which seems definitely a popular destination for pedophiles from the British government, even if this time, the Kincora Boys Home was already closed. He was knighted in 2001.
Lord Leon Brittan, former Minister Thatcher regular visitor Elm Guest House. In 1989, he left national politics after being knighted to become European Commissioner for Trade and Foreign Affairs and Vice President of the European Commission in 1995 in the Santer Commission, who had to resign in 1999 for a history of corruption. In 2000 he was appointed baron, and is also Vice Chairman of UBS AG Investment Bank, non-executive director of Unilever and member of the International Council of Total. In 2010, he returned to government as an advisor to trade until early 2011. It was the right arm of Thatcher’s privatization in the country forced march. Throughout his career, he was under the influence of accusations of pedophilia, as in the case with the 80 orphanages Wales. As “home secretary”, that is to say the internal affairs, it was necessarily aware of the scandals of pedophile networks and their systematic suffocation. Apparently, the police went to his home after finding her street half naked boy who told them he was raped by Brittan and his friends and brought them to his house.
Peter Campbell, professor at Reading University, member of the Monday Club, he also created leLGBTory in 1975. The group returned in 1991 under the name of TORCH (Tory Campaign for Homosexual Equality). It was he who inserted the pubs Elm Guest House in the newsletter group gay Conservative.
DC Chris Carter, Richmond council
Jess Conrad, former Pop Star, actor and singer.
Chris Denning, former DJ, including the BBC, where he was co-Savil and Gary Glitter, and pedo recognized because he was worried for the first time in 1974 for fondling. He then made 18 months in prison in 1985 for the same reason, and again in 1988, when he was 3 years in prison for abusing a 13 year old boy and possession of child pornography. Denning was grilled as part of a pedophile ring based in a box disco for young people in Surrey. Other prominent members were Tom Paton, manager of the Bay City Rollers or Jonathan King, singer and producer who was convicted again in 2000 for sexual abuse of boys committed between 1983 and 1989. Denning had to be extradited from the Czech Republic to appear at his trial. In 2008 he was sent to Slovakia where he lived to face charges of production of child pornography, and took four years in prison.
Terry Dwyer, Barry Haddon pimp involved with a pedophile ring. Their clients include Louis Minster director of social services in the area, Colin Peter Donald South, director of education at Wandsworth, and some of the children were provided by Niel Kier of Grafton Close Childrens Home.
Steve Everett, a social worker at Westminster
Peter Glencross, editor of the newsletter of the Monday Club
Barry Haddon: Provider children
Guy Hamilton Blackwell, son of the president of Westland Helicopters
Charles Irving, Conservative MP tends very nationalist and member of the Monday Club. No school, he took over the family hotel chain and entered politics in the late ‘40s. Once MP in the 80s, he founded the National Association for the Care and Resettlement of Offenders (National Association for Aid and Rehabilitation of Offenders) and also, strangely, the National Victims Association, probably to better harness and muzzle those victims, in particular by developing the “mediation” and forgiveness. Incidentally, it was known as homosexual.
Alan Jones
Colin Jordan, a former leader of the National Front, which had also created the White Defense League in 1957. The heiress Dior Françoise notorious fascist, was married in 1963, which will greatly facilitate the financing of a kind of neo-fascist international. Françoise Dior at the time worked for the World Union of National Socialists (WUNS), led by Lincoln Rockwell, head of the Nazi party Amercian. Dior has a lot toured Europe on behalf of Jordan.
Langley R, Buckingham Palace
DC David Lines, Board Barnes
Maurice McCall probably one of those who provided the children.
Sheila McInnes
Stan Matthews was the Monday Club in London and apparently lived traffic pédoporno. He stayed at the Guest house and was a friend of Haddon.
WPC Elizabeth Meredith
Richard Miles, the Monday Club
Minster Louis, Director of Social Services in Richmond since 1975, which was the Grafton Close Home. However, he said recently in magazine Exaro he had never heard of Elm Guest house, unlike his colleague Terry Earland.
Colin Peters, QC, which provided children with customers.
Donald Naismith, responsible to the Board of Education of Richmond. He then unebrillante career in the education sector where he helped lead the great liberal reforms under Thatcher.
Proctor Harvey, MP and member of the Monday Club. In 1986, his political career ended when a magazine published claims that Proctor had beaten prostitutes aged 17 to 21 years in his London flat. At that time, homosexual relations were only allowed from 21 years. He got away with £ 1,450 fine. Apparently, it was quickly rebuilt, and in 2004 he prevailed on the Belvoir Castle, a castle of 365 rooms that can be booked for private parties or seminars. He served as private secretary to the Duke and Duchess of Ruthland.
Patrick Puddles that after Carole Kasir would have put pressure. He had a store in Richmond and enjoyed photo sessions in the jacuzzi Elm House guest with children of course.
Cliff Richard, Pop Star, Elm Guest House known by the nickname of “Kitty”.
John Rowe, a member and former member of MI5 at the time of the facts. According to Carole Kasir, he and Terry Dwyer who persuaded the guest house turn into fucking homo and pedophile. It is also the duo Rowe - Carole Dwyer would have presented the father Kasir Glencross, who ran the magazine Spartacus. Suggesting that MI5 was no stranger to the establishment of the pedophile network based in Elm Guest House.
Jimmy Savile: He was a great friend of Haroun Kasir and regularly came to Elm Guest House.
PC Roderick Smeaton
Cyril Smith, former Liberal MP for Rochdale died in 2010, also involved in the case orphanages Wales and Jersey with Jimmy Savile. Two sources have identified him as a regular visitor to Elm Guest house, including orgies organized every month. Recently, the police have admitted that they have left aside three opportunities to send Smith to prison for rape of minors. [14] Folder on the police and said he lost is now in the hands of MI5 who do will probably nothing more. Throughout his career, the rumors that he loved the children have continued in the streets of Rochdale. From the beginning of his career, he has approached the field of children, supporting youth activities, schools ... He also created a home for boys from disadvantaged families, parents approached and said that their son would be better in the home. Funded with public money and private donations from businessmans the corner or the Rotary Club, the Cambridge House opened in 1962. Smith had his own set of keys and was out there with him.
Stingemore John, who was then the head of Grafton Close to Children’s Home until 1981. Social worker services Richmond, it was continued in the 80s for child abuse. He was arrested in February along with Father Tony McSweeney, under the operation Fernbridge.
Ron Thornton DC, Richmond council
George Tremlett, former leader of the Greater London Council
Gary Walker, Sinn Fein (Irish nationalist party opposed yet radically England). It would be several pseudonyms, including this one.
Ron Wells, Elm musician known under the pseudonym “Gladys”. It is very likely Ronnie Wells, who began his career in the late 50s when he was a child.
PC Chris Wicks
Ray Wire, one is interesting: it is an expert in therapies for children, died in 2008. He is said to have been a pioneer in the “treatment” of offenders and sex offenders (including through masturbation), and was created for this purpose Gracewell Clinic. He spent quite often in the media to give his opinion about pedophiles, and also advised the police and the courts. Strangely, he supported the children about sexual abuse evoking rituals and he listed the symptoms of potential victims. He also made the list of behaviors that present him as offenders and sex offenders. Obviously, this classification excludes the profile that was paedo eg Elm Guest House.
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[1] Dickens also explained that they had found his name on the blacklist of a killer.
[2] The IOP was created by Peter Righton, expert of the English child protection, and the treasurer was Charles Napier. A raid took place at Righton (real name Paul Pelham) in 1992, and was found pédopornos films often hard core, shot in Amsterdam and a correspondence with paedo around the world, proving that had exploited, raped and prostitute children. To do this, Righton took £ 900 fine. We also learned that the lover Righton was a school for emotionally disturbed children. As in Napier, he had already been convicted in 1972 for sexual abuse of a minor, then went to Sweden in 1978 where he was a teacher, then left the country to become an English teacher in Cairo. There he boasted to send videos by British diplomatic bags. Napier has also helped to establish a school in Turkey ... In 1995, he made 15 months in prison for a rape committed in the 80s. Righton, as head of education in England, even took his defense in 1972 that Napier was no longer a risk to children, and even he was a good teacher!
[3] This worked for British intelligence before returning his jacket and denounce the existence of a pedophile elite involving prominent politicians, and whose victims often came from orphanages. She was prosecuted for concealing documents and underwent numerous procedures so she sought political asylum in the United States.
[4] At least seven boys.
[5] Only a teenager more than sixteen years, two undercover cops and supposedly the owners of the guest house were there that day.
[6] Who numbered 171 members in 1983.
[7] When Vedrine was dropped by Mitterrand in Nièvre and he needed an address for the campaign of 1977. In this regard, Vedrine wrote in “Worlds of François Mitterrand”: “But how, I asked [Mitterrand] candidate in a town where I knew no one? He would take care of me, he said, putting me in touch with friends, Maringe, which in turn put me in connection with the parish priest of Saint-Léger-des-Vignes, Father Glencross, an English original failed in the Nivernais since the war, adored by his parishioners and very close to the leaders of the young team socialist Billoué Robert and Guy Leblanc. So it was done. ” Védrine then won the elections, as well as 1983 and 1989.
[8] This, in conjunction with the network called Toro Bravo, which has never been fully discovered. The network has about him again in 1996, after being found videos which appear of network members who have been left alone. 72 arrests ensued, including that of Bernard Alaptetite, filmmaker pédopornos in connection with another network called “Teen 71”, in which there were more than 800 searches, 686 arrests, 103 indictments and 15 suicides . Customers had aussichez Toro bravo magazine Spartacus them. Most have had amnesty and were suspended a year tard.Michel Caignet, a neo-Nazi pedophile who provided tapes pédopornos, near Doucé and networks Gladio was part of this network. He also organized shoots from Colombia with minors. There, he collaborated with Jean-Manuel Vuillaume, professor at Paris VIII in video technology, who ran a brothel in Bogota. Caignet said he bought videos for pédopornos to Vuillaume in 3500 by 5.000F original.
[9] So right extremists and packed the Monday Club in 2001 was suspended from the Conservative party. In fact, it was the bridgehead of neo colonialist English, which even made a sort of coup in 70 years against the government of Harold Wilson.
[10] Association who discovered the so-called CD Roms Zandvoort, where it has more than 80,000 images of child abuse. The survey was smothered in some countries and not even started in others, such as France. We remember especially the substitute Yvon Tallec telling the JT 20 hours need to “minimize” the scope of the LARC so the entire network is behind, and I hope to return to this dark character soon.
[11] He is now in prison for life and was extradited from Netherlands to be with his girlfriend kidnapped, raped and tortured children.
[12] The fact that Bell is a convicted pedophile has probably not been a hindrance to the Legion of Honor, quite the contrary.
[13] Some say that Ted Rothschild who had recommended, and Ted Rothschild was a spy for Israel.
[14] Barry Fitton, one of his victims said they had never believed when he spoke of rape by Smith. Alan Neal, another victim of Smith in the 60s, said that some of his victims had caused the death of force pass for liars. Neal was raped and beaten by Smith when he was 11 and he was in a fire in 1964. In 1969, a survey focused on accusations of eight boys from Cambridge House Hostel (created by Smith) in Rochdale denounced rape by Smith between 1961 and 1969. In 1997, another victim of Smith talks to the cops of rape in Cambrige House between 1965 and 1968 and in 1999 it was further rapes committed between 1962 and 1965 are reported. There was never any pursuit.
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]]>“If they do not use their hands to physically abuse then it isn’t abuse.”
Wrong
It is abuse to ignore some ones needs emotionally and make them feel worthless and depressed and will cause long term damage that in many cases can lead to the victims physical health being harmed.
To deliberately cause harm to someone by use of the silent treatment, deny a person any emotional care, deny them any praise, starve them of love, affection, compliments, positive feed back, to regularly reject, degrade and deny a person any emotional responsiveness and to ignore a persons needs is mental abuse or also known as psychological abuse. It is repetitive abuse that’s aimed at controlling, diminishing another persons well being in order to hurt, punish, harm or control them.
The silent abuser is able to switch himself off emotionally to the pain and suffering he is causing his victim and will deny he is the problem and he may tell himself or others that he is the victim.
You stop being a victim when you become the abuser
The abuser is capable of closing down all reasonable sense of emotions and turn into a cold heart very fast as he withdraws into his own world without any care for his victims distress . The abuser will behave in society charming, calm, happy, he will be seen by others as a pillar of society, gentle natured, helpful, kind, caring and fool the outside world into thinking he is abused and his partner is the abuser. This is classic of a mental abuser. They will have their partner labelled a mental case whilst he plays the victim and saint and makes her the subject of of every ones rejection by labelling her with an unbalanced mind.
The true victim will be further rejected not only by her abuser but also by his friends, work colleagues, family and others he is likely to meet. The abuser needs to feel in control and he will seek constant approval from those around him and convince them that he’s the true victim. They will offer him advice and he will feed off their pity which will make him feel even more in control as he plays the victim.
The true victims may withdraw from all social activities, work, stop seeing family, they stop being fun, will see everything in a negative light, stop eating which is the start of dangerous health issues, cry alone, send text terror messages as a means to fight back which only gives the abuser more ammunition to abuse her with as he will use that as a further excuse to ignore and make her look bad in front of others. The abuser will happily share the text messages because he wants everyone to see him as the victim. The true victim will stop functioning on all levels as the mind games take over her life. She will find it hard to think of anything else but what is happening to her. The victim will fight with her own mind and struggle to work out if she is being abused or is she truly the problem. The victim may start behaving irrationally from the stress caused by the mental abuse.
Mental abuse is not normally seen by anyone on the outside looking in because they see the abuser as a strong, calm, caring and sincere person and will not be able to see the true character behind the person in front of them that they think they know so well.
Do you really know the person standing next to you?
Out of all the abuse I suffered the one part of the abuse I have always struggled with is the “being ignored” because when I begged for the abuser to stop no one listened. The more I was ignored the more it built up an extreme and unlikely intolerance for being “ignored” which has stayed with me as an adult. I left care with that intolerance to the ugly side of human nature that sees many people misuse the silent treatment to harm others. Some justify this behaviour and kid themselves that it’s in some way an honourable stance to take. Ignoring someone briefly when done to express dissatisfaction is very different to the silent treatment. To ignore someone as a regular means to punish, hurt or upset someone as payback or for whatever reason, it is in my opinion and the opinions of experts to be considered one of the worst forms of mental abuse that exists in human nature. It causes irreparable damage to a person’s mind and will see the victims behaviour change slowly but noticeably when its out of control by others who are close. There are times the abuse continues and the victims show now outward signs to those who are close whilst the mental abuser get to witness the dramatic and extreme behaviour change in direct response to his/her mental abuse in the “silent treatment”.
The silent treatment is a form of punishment and control and the person using it to harm another feels a lack of care and can not or will not communicate as she/he watches the victim slowly deteriorate from being a lively happy and fun person into becoming withdrawn, reclusive or maybe verbally aggressive to the abuser in a vain bid to stop the abuse of the mind. The person dishing out the “silent treatment is FULLY aware of the damage they are doing and they are FULLY aware that all they need to do to stop it is to simply talk to the victim. The abuser will not talk to the victim and when he does he will constantly lead the victim into a false sense of security at leisure. Then ignore again. The abuser will provoke any situation with silence which triggers off the victim who can never work out what has happened to warrant more silent treatment and again the victim finds himself/herself fighting desperately with the abuser in a vain bid to stop her/him giving the silent treatment all over again.
The victims behaviour can change so dramatically he/she is hardly recognized as being the same person. Every time the silent treatment begins the victim is pulled further and further down and the abuser sits back and carries on with daily chores blatantly ignoring the victim whom is obviously so distressed that no normal thinking individual person could sit back and watch such a shocking display of suffering. The victim may withdraw completely, stop talking i.e. friends, stop socializing, stop eating, start drinking, stop working, start text terrorism against the abuser as a defence mechanism of protection but it never works, suicidal thoughts, self-harm and that’s just a few of the side effects of a victim suffering from mental abuse.
The “silent treatment” otherwise named as “deliberate intent to ignore” or “ATCH” which means absent to cause harm which is where an abuser completely cuts the victim off and the abuser will not budge. They often acknowledge in their own minds that the victim is suffering but do nothing about it and walk away and simply ignore it.
The latter is a very dangerous form of mental abuse.
I have often heard stories of men ignoring their partner after causing her such distress that she has taken to self-harm or attempt to take her own life from where the mental abuse has weakened her once strong mind into a nerve wrecking display of self doubt and depression. The abuser will hear her calls of desperation and he will empty himself of all emotions and walk away. He will show no emotions as she tries to take her own life. He will convince himself that she deserves it for hurting his feelings by trying to fight back.
Its not often friends get to witness the mental abuse of the systematic silent treatment from a partner because it is silent but in some cases friends will witness erratic behaviour of the victim and they cant quite understand what’s going on because the victim will blame everything but her abusive partner. It is rare anyone on the outside of the relationship sees the suffering of the victim as the abuse often like most forms of abuse stays “within the immediate relationship”. The male abusers friends will only see this charming friend they all love because he will do anything for them but seldom do his friends or family witness what he is doing to his partner. They will only see the abusers partners displays of distress.
The “silent treatment, ignoring or ATCH” abuser is fully aware of their actions and fully aware they are causing a significant amount of harm to the victim in most cases but there are those who do believe they are the victim. The victim may at times have the odd outburst in front of others or in a public place. The abuser will then inform his family of every little thing his victim partner does as he seeks refuge and portrays himself as the victim in need of support because he has a totally “maniac” partner whose lost the plot.
This form of mental abuse is often used by the man more so than a woman.
Eventually once the victim has been totally broken down by the mental abuser she will give up fighting back and beg for forgiveness and beg the abusive partner to forgive her. She may well go to the extremes to try and make it up to her man because she has been broken in and is now under his mind control. The man will continue to use this method of mind control and ignore, use the silent treatment or ATCH tactics until his partner has been totally exhausted, feels totally helpless and it opens her up to being controlled so the man gets what he wants. Sadly this form of abuse has seen the deaths of women who self-harmed or attempted suicide as a cry for help and those cries for help ignored by the abuser and has resulted in her death.
Self-harm - deliberate cutting or mutilation of one’s own body including rip hair out, stop eating, stop going out, withdraw from society, cut off hair, stay in bed, over eat or attempt suicide.
The reason I am touching on this subject is because I have seen a number of women email me on facebook who are going through this right now with their Turkish partners or have just left such an abusive relationship and sit in silence blaming themselves. I also want to touch on this subject because I am a survivor of child abuse and I myself have gone through the mental abuse process and contrary to what people believe, it is not easy to leave such a controlling relationship.
Men who have been abused as children physically, sexually or mentally and/or suffered abuse by a parent due to the damaging effects of poverty are well known for using the “silent treatment, ignoring and ATCH” methods to punish and control their partners. These men will convince themselves they are not abusing because they haven’t physically hit the woman and he will convince her he’s very good to her by not saying anything. He will almost always convince himself he’s the victim and show no remorse at all for the suffering he is causing by punishing and controlling someone he claims to love. These men are often found to not contribute to the relationship they are in and show little or no care or respect for his partner and will continue to expect her to hold the entire relationship together all by herself whilst he laps up the comfort of control and does nothing to help contribute or support the relationship. He will not show emotions when challenged or he may eventually turn to violence.
Ignoring a partner may also be a sign of infidelity or a man who is not in control of his own emotions and shuts down. Regardless of the circumstances, mental abuse and the negative power of the “silent treatment, being deliberately ignored or the ATCH” abuse is never the less very damaging for those on the receiving end and needs to be address by either the abuser entering therapy or for the victim to leave the situation. If the man recognizes he’s an abuser lhe can seek help from a professional help. The victim must seek professional help to get out of such an abusive relationship before she is so worn down it will diminish her life slowly but surely.
When does the silent abuse turn into physical abuse?
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]]>Why am I taking this stance?
Because what happened at Kendall House was abuse and nothing can change that or excuse it.
Kent police have failed every girl by refusing to deal with the severe abuse which included forced and deliberate overdosing of psychotropic drugs. The staff/nurses have no right to hide behind their excuse that they were ordered to do it by Dr M.S Perinpanayagam. They knew it was wrong. If someone tells you to murder someone, would you do it knowing it was wrong? Most rational thinking people would say no. Hitlers men were prosecuted for their part in the abuse and deaths of so many. They couldn’t hide behind the excuse they were ordered to do it. They done it because it was their choice just as it was Kendall House staffs choice.
Abuse is abuse
There should be no exceptions to the rule
Kent police did not deal with the forced overdosing of young girls in care because it was in their opinion it was “normal” when they at no stage sought the girls files or expert medical advice which led their personal opinions to flout the law of justice and see all the staff walk away from their part in the abuse of so many girls.
I will start by naming
Mrs Vola (Viola as some know her) Tapping who knowingly took part in the severe overdosing and dangerous restraints of girls in Kendall House. Mrs Tapping was also known under the nick name of Tilly or Mrs T. This woman was a part time biology teacher to the girls and later went on to run Kendall House.
The staff member the BBC talked to in the interview (seen in link below) is Mrs Tapping.
We were not very disturbed girls at all and most of the staff who were pregnant or had young children often brought them into Kendall House. They often took certain girls to their homes.
Would you bring in young children or pregnant staff members to work where there were “very disturbed” girls?
The staff have so far remained anonymous but the time has come to name and shame them
I will now start submitting evidence on each member of staff and the drugs along with Kent Police failures to investigate the severe abuse of girls in care
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