Steal my Child…. Hear my Roar - By Hayley
Photo, Mother V Social Workers - Lioness V Hyena’s
A good friend said to me the other day, ‘fight as hard as you can to protect your cub’. After I had thought about what was said I came to a conclusion.
A Lioness will go to any lengths to protect her Cubs. A Mother would go to any length to protect her child.
I believe that we evolved from animals. I’m not going to give you a history lesson as most know the basics of evolution! Everything that we are came from animals and we are now at the top of the chain making us the most powerful.
That would then mean that all the emotions that we feel are in some way connected to these of animals. We feel pain like animals feel pain, we feel anger like animals feel anger.
I am going to focus on Lionesses in particular and the way in which they fight to protect their young. In the wild Lion Cubs are vulnerable to predators such as the Hyena and Leopards and also to Male Adult Lions.
There are Male Lions who will kill Lion Cubs in the hunt of searching for a mate. This is because after a Lionesses cubs are born she will not mate again for 18 months so she can dedicate her time to her young.
During these 1st 18 months Lioness’s form groups with other Lionesses to protect their young cubs. Many of the Lionesses in the pride give birth at or around the same time and this makes it natural for them to care for, protect and feed each other young. It is truly communal care.
One of the most important jobs for a lioness is to protect her cubs. Lionesses will do everything they can to protect their cubs. They will fight to the death and gang up on intruding males and herds of Hyenas. Although they cannot defeat the larger cats on their own, the group does succeed when working together.
I applied this factual information to what a mother faces when Social Services come to take her Child away.
From the moment a Child is born, a Mothers love for her child is unrivalled. She will go to any lengths to protect her child from harm, nurse the child when they are poorly, worry constantly that everything is ok and rely upon her other female friends for support and assistance at this magical time.
The father of the child is often seen as the ‘breadwinner’ so does not take on the same role as the mother. Sometimes the father is absent which means that the support the mother receives from her friends is of the utmost importance.
Suddenly one day out of the blue there is a knock at the door, The mother goes to answer the door and finds two people there. They introduce themselves as Social Workers and say they would like to have an informal chat and offer support. The Mother obliges as she knows she has done nothing wrong and invites them in and makes a cup of tea.
What the Mother does not realise at this moment is that this is the Hyenas making their first move. They have made their move at a time when the Mother is vulnerable and at a time when she is not surrounded by her friends. She is on her own.
When the mother sits down the Hyenas then tell her that they are worried for the safety of her child. This is usually the moment when it dawns on a Mother that these people who she has invited into her home under false pretences are not here to offer her any support. They are here to steal her Baby.
At this moment the Mothers animal instincts take over. She turns into the Lioness that will go to any lengths to protect her cub. She will shout and scream and hit out to protect her cub from being taken by the Hyenas.
However there are always two Hyenas in this situation and only one Lioness. One Lioness alone cannot defeat the Hyenas. They always win. The Hyenas take the Child and leave the mother on her own.
When they write their report they say that the mother is mentally unstable, that she has anger problems and cannot keep her child safe from harm.
The Mother is then assessed by more Hyenas and told that she has a personality disorder and no child would be safe in her care. This of course makes the Lioness more determined and she seeks support from other in her pride.
The mothers in the pride do everything they can to help her. We find more lionesses willing to help her fight, and eventually there are more Lionesses than Hyenas and the Mother wins.
I believe that Social Workers are rather like Hyenas. They are sly and they are sneaky and most of all they lie to make sure they get whatever they want.
I believe that Mothers are rather like Lionesses. They will do whatever possible to protect their Children.
What I am trying to say is that Hyenas stick together in packs to make sure that they can win. However Lionesses are much fiercer than Hyenas and I believe that as long as we stick together we can defeat them.
Hyenas will try and break us, they will try to make us lose belief in ourselves. However as long as we stay as a pride they will never succeed.
So when a social worker comes to knock on your door, just remember to roar.
Hayley
7th June 2009
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On 7th Jun 2009 at 06:43 PM Admin said...
Hayley what a fantastic article, well written and put across. This is great because its so true because human behaviour is such an important thing when it comes to dealing with SS and mothers do respond to how social workers treat them and when they react in a normal way when mum is under threat the social workers misuse it as if its something totaly abnormal and they go in the kill just like the Hyena’s
well done xxx
On 8th Jun 2009 at 03:57 PM Justice Prevails said...
I have to say after reading teresa’s book and from my own experience and talking to mothers it appears anyone who knows in their heart of hearts there is wrong doing and injustice and keeps complaining, fighting and sometimes gets so frustrated as they know the truth they lash out whether that be through anger or self harm.They are diagnosed with personality disorders.The truth is that these people know the truth.Their fight to expose the truth is misunderstood.Because they do not give in they are falsly diagnosed as having some disorder.POWER TO THE PEOPLE KEEP ROARING X
On 14th Jun 2009 at 11:33 AM iian josephs said...
Here are some facts that deserve comment:-
Social workers take newborn babies at birth for “risk of emotional abuse” (now the most frequent reason for removing children) and give them for adoption to strangers; Parents with no criminal records cannot defend themselves against crystal ball predictions by so called “experts”. The UK alone in Europe permanently separates parents and children by forced adoption.The unfortunate mothers never see their children again until they are 18 at best and usually not for the rest of their lives !
Compliant judges rubberstamp most demands for forced adoption by social services in a way that juries would never tolerate.Mothers facing in effect a life sentence are denied juries that are available to burglars and the like facing 6 months prison or more.
Battered women are now afraiid to report their assailants as police call in social services who remove their children.
In the case of Baby P THOROUGH PHYSICAL EXAMINATION ON 60 POSSIBLE OCCASIONS could have saved his life.Unfortunately social workers prefer to remove children for non life threatening causes such as absences from school,witnessing domestic violence,a cluttered house,a mother’s low IQ,not “working with the professionals” etc These children make better adoption material than physically battered babies or toddlers who are like baby P callously left to die!
Parents who have their children taken are then gagged to “protect family privacy” and any parent daring to protest publicly against a perceived injustice via utube or internet is ruthlessly pursued through the courts by social services; Over 200 parents per year being imprisoned for “contempt” without public trial !
WHAT TO DO ? 1:-Remove the gag from parents and their chidren,2:-abolish emotional harm as a reason for removing children,and 3:- allow parents threatened with permanent seperation from their children to demand a hearing before a jury at which hearsay evidence is banned !
These 3 measures would end 99% of the injustices in the family courts !
On 15th Jun 2009 at 02:42 PM not a MP said...
http://www.whatdotheyknow.com/request/suicide_rates_losing_children_to#incoming-29904
funny how the biggest authority in the land Kent and probably one of the worst for’child snatching’ continues to fail to answer directly any FOI (ACT) questions relating to ‘forced adoption’and have even started to reject them outright , must clearly have a lot to hide !
On 27th Jun 2009 at 11:06 AM John said...
My dealings with Islington Council gave me a crystal clear insight into how the Council operates. The complaints system is a farce and is definitely not designed for the complainant to get anywhere. In the case I was fighting I uncovered corruption at the highest level, which includes the Director of Children’s Services and the leader of the council. The complaint I made was about the vile abuse of vulnerable adult women. The abuse resulted not only in the forced removal of her baby for adoption, but her being hospitalised for several months after.
Islington council relies upon 3 very nasty social workers attached to child protection, who are still working for them to do their dirty work. I had enough evidence against the council and the social workers, which included the director being corrupt, however I still could not get anywhere. I sent the case to, Emily Thornberry MP but she soon realised what it would mean if all came out. She chose to use willing blindness that means total ignorance of the facts. I sent the case to the “GSCC” ineffectual and corrupt. What ever you do those within the council, just want to keep it as they like it. They all close ranks and do what is ever necessary to shut you up. I have a vexatious order slapped on me until November 2009.
On 3rd Jul 2009 at 07:32 AM melizza said...
I hate all social workers for this reason alone, they make me so sick.I just wanna be sick on one.How anybody chooses to wreck innocent families lives is beyond me.Do social workers have nightmares of the kids they help to steal from loving families.
On 16th Oct 2011 at 08:28 PM andrew said...
Hi, Uk USA AUSTRALIA AFRICA THE WORLD
We lost our kids to social workers in scotland read below now both children are parted injustice is not the word
We are writing as we have set up a new support website for families in scotland who have lost their children to social workers care foster care and adoption.
Our aim is to support the parents and fight for justice also we offer a name and shame area for professionals and the public.
our website can be found at www.parentsinjusticegroupscotland.co.uk or google parents injustice group scotland.
We want the media and local groups to support us we Have only Just Launched the site and many features are to be added we feel we offer a unique service which currently dont exsist in scotland at present like our english partners down south we will help families get justice name and shame people who have lied and hold them accountable for their actions.
We would like the media to report on our statement below and highlight this in the news the founder of pigs is a man who lost his children to the care system in scotland but child stealing by the state is happening every day so is cover ups by high profile people we hope your media outlet hasnt been gagged for reporting the truth.
We are also looking for community groups to share website links with us and families to have their say on our website.
For the Sake of all children let us have our say please.
Andrew
07827731060 +44 uk
08452249506 + 4 uk
Our Statement
We have been created by the need to fight widespread social care injustice and abuse of draconian state power. Children are being ripped from their parents simply because they are considered “unconventional” or even single.
Just like pigs we rootle under the surface to find those golden nuggets of truth hidden beneath half truths, targets, idealised aims and a “not my decision” culture. In fact, we are the truffle P.I.G.S. of the social care world.
Our aim is to help and support parents who have lost their children through spurious reasons. Low income, untidy house, learning difficulties, bad diet, disorganised lifestyle or a perceived non cooperation with social services.
We don’t claim that these are fully acceptable but if the money wasted by the legal and social system was spent helping families with these difficulties there would be no need for their abusive and draconian behaviour.
The whole system cannot be seen to have made a mistake, so they cover up any dodgy decisions. Everyone has seen how government and bankers squirm out of responsibility for their actions. Even sympathetic solicitors have little chance against this state conspiracy.
The worst thing about the whole rotten business is that the children pay for the rest of their lives. And it doesn’t stop there. Their children end up suffering too. Three generations affected by inept decision making, it’s beyond criminal.
So please get in touch however hopeless and battered you feel. We can and will make a difference to you and your children.